How to find the right Tools for Your Systems

So in this series on systems we’ve discussed why you need systems, and how to develop systems that work for you.

But here’s something you’ll discover: your system is only as good as your willingness to use and maintain it.  Over the years, I’ve created many of systems that died of natural causes — like laziness, forgetfulness, & resistance to change.

But I have discovered a trick that helps me get over that barrier more often: Using tools.

Benefits of using tools to maintain your systems:

1. The right tool can make it flow.

I tried to maintain a to-do list for years.  I tried paper.  But I would lose the paper, or not have a pen.  I tried a Daytimer.  I wouldn’t have it with me at the right moment.  I tried to use a Palm (remember those?!) back in the day.  It became too time-consuming and awkward.  When I got a smartphone, this all began to change.  It was the tool I’d been looking for, and a to-do list became not just a tool for when I was overwhelmed and HAD to make a list… It became integrated into my life.

2. The right tool can make it emotionally easier to get started.

It’s that new-car feeling.  When you get one, you want to take it for a drive.  It’s just a fact of life.  I think you should use it to your advantage.  My filing system was horrible until I got a labeler.  Now it’s not bad, and I’m more likely to use it.  If that emotional bump from a new “toy” – an app, a device, etc. — can help you get over the hump of starting a new system, I’m all for it.

3. The right place for your tool can make it more likely that you’ll use it.

This one was surprising to me.  If your tool is away from you, or in an awkward place, you’ll be less likely to use it because of your own internal resistance — even on a subconscious level.

Conversely, If you keep it in the right place, you’ll be more likely to use.  My filing system used to be across the office from my desk.  I read Julie Morgenstern’s book “Organizing from the Inside Out” and took her advice to move it to where you use it.  (See Julie’s chapter on the “kindergarten method” of organizing.)  Now, I can just turn my office chair and file something.

For my phone, I would never go without my hip holster.  I have broken several and immediately replaced them.  Why? It keeps it where it’s always at hand.

Tools raise the chances that you will use your system by removing the subconscious barriers between you and using it.

How to Find a good tool for your system: 

1. Ask “What is my current tool?”

Maybe you don’t have a tool.  Or maybe you have one, but it isn’t working.

Maybe you need a notebook, or an app or a piece of equipment.

Two weeks ago, I realized I have no real way of tracking my activity and fitness.  There’s no tool for me, it’s just anecdotal “I really should be more active.”  That’s not very measurable or fixable — or motivating.  So, I started a search, read reviews, and bought a tracker from Pivotal Living last night.  (Maybe I’ll review that in the future and let you know how that goes.)

2. Ask “Is my current tool motivating or demotivating me?”

I didn’t realize this was important.  Then I discovered that I wasn’t using some systems I had created, because I didn’t want to use the tool I was using.  It was cumbersome, awkward, and a pain to use.  It created a barrier between me and the system I really wanted.

It’s already hard enough to make lasting changes, new habits, working systems.  It takes work and good thinking, and self-discipline.  Tools should remove barriers, not add them.

3. Ask, “What do I need my tool to do?”

Do you need it always available?
Do you need it in a particular place?
Do you need it to be solid and unchanging — or flexible and adaptable from week to week?
Do you need it to be a checklist?
Do you need it to have automatic reminders?

4. Ask “Are there tools out there which will do this?  How are other people managing this?”

Google is my go-to here.  How are other people managing their life & work?

Michael Hyatt’s blog is a great resource.  I can’t afford many of his tools, but he made me think in a tool-oriented way, and pointed the way to many great tools

5. Ask, “Does this tool fit the way I think and work?”

Some tools are right for you, and some will honestly not work.  Not because something’s wrong with you, or the tool — just because the tool doesn’t fit you.

6. Ask, “What is it worth to me to make this system work?”

Sometimes, you have to spend money on a tool.  The productivity I gain from my Todoist app subscription is worth the cost — because I don’t do well with the frustration of paper and pen.  It’s worth that to me.  Some other tools are not worth it because the price is too high.  That’s a decision you have to make.

A FINAL WORD:
Sure, you can overdo this.  You can spend hours reading on “life hacks” and not actually accomplish anything.  I don’t want you to do that.  But if you will take initiative to invest in your life, home, family, work and priorities with the right tools, I think you’ll find that they raise the likelihood of your success in those areas that matter most.

In my next post, I will talk about the systems that are working for me right now, and what tools I’m using to facilitate them.

Exit question: What tools are you using?  Which ones have helped or hindered you the most?  Share in the comments, or on my Facebook.  

How to Develop Systems in Your Life and Work

Business Man At Starting Line Road PathIn my first post on systems, I shared the benefits of having systems in your life. Just in case you think you’re “not really a system type of person,” I should explain — you already have some systems.  Really.

Strangely enough, whether you are organized or live life “by the seat of your pants,” you have systems.  Many of them may be unconscious.  You put your clothes on in a similar fashion each day.  You probably put the same leg first into your pants, you put the same shoe on first each day.  You brush your teeth in approximately the same way each day.  Your brain does this to conserve energy.  It moves tasks that are commonly done out of the prefrontal cortex (home of conscious thought, decision making and willpower) to a lower region of the brain called the basal ganglia.  This area of the brain is responsible for automating common behaviors.

The brain does this to conserve energy and speed itself up.  After you do something a good number of times, it moves to the basal ganglia, and the brain becomes much more efficient in performing that action, because little to no conscious thought goes into it.

So, what I’m advocating is that you put this energy-saving, willpower-conserving brain trick into play for you.  But how do you get them into the “habit” section of the brain?  Here’s the starting trick: move some of the actions that represent your deepest values outside your brain entirely.  

In other words, write it down, and use a checklist.

So here’s how to develop systems for your life or work:

1. Notice where systems are needed.

Take inventory.  Here are some questions to help:Blank paper waiting for idea with hand and pen

  • Where do you often forget things?
  • In what areas are you stressed?
  • What areas of your life make you sigh heavily right now?
  • Is there an area where I really am struggling with the mental RAM to do well?
  • In what good things am I struggling with having enough willpower?

2. Write down each step of doing something perfectly.

If this is finances, what does an ideal financial week/month look like?
(Deposit paycheck, give to charity, save, pay key bills, purchase needs…?)

If it’s at work, what does it take to prepare for pulling off a highly successful meeting?
(Prepare presentation? print handout materials? Contact attenders? and probably 20 other things)

If it’s cleaning a building, what needs to be done in each room?

If it’s spiritual, what time and resources do you need to have a great time of spiritual growth?

If it’s getting a successful start to the day, what are the things you need to get done each day?

This step can be challenging, but it’s worth it.  Honestly, as I think about it — most of the areas in my life that are working… are areas where I have taken the time to do this kind of heavy mental lifting.

I sat down once and typed out every single step to a perfectly executed weekend worship service.  (There were over 60!)  Then, it was time to go on to the next step:

3. Organize your list into a written checklist.  

When you have identified everything that needs to be done, put them in order or priority, or group them together by types of actions.

This will not work 100% the first time.  You’ll have to add & change as you use the list.  This isn’t a failure, it’s improvement!

4. Find a place to keep your system.

Save your work in a place where you can quickly get a copy again.  For me, some of my systems live in Evernote, while others are hard copy that stay in a place (a clipboard the cleaning supplies room, laminated on the sound booth counter at church, etc.)

I’ll talk more about how I save my systems in the next post.

5. Automate what you can.

With all the digital tools available, there are some things you should never have to remember again, except to review once or twice per year.

Finances: Giving through your church website.  Retirement savings through your company’s 401(k) program.  Short-term savings with a checking to savings weekly auto draft.

Relationships: This one’s tough to automate.  But IFTTT sends me a text each week to remind me to text my wife and ask how her day is going.  (Don’t tell her.)  🙂  For a while I felt bad about having to do this kind of stuff… then I realized, “Hey, I’m not devaluing my wife by ‘reducing her to a checklist!’  I’m acting like she is too valuable to leave to chance!”

Random things you forget: Mute your phone automatically when you get to church, or during the workday.  You can do this on Android with Tasker (techies only!) or with If This Then That.

You can’t automate everything, but if you automate 15 actions per week, that clears some stress!

6. Set reminders.

To get your unconscious mind to let go of the stress of holding everything in short-term memory, you’ll need to set reminders so you can forget them and live in the moment.

This has never been so easy in the history of mankind.  You probably own a cell phone, and probably a smartphone.

  • Alarms!  (Most have custom repeat options these days!)
  • Calendar alerts!  (Set Google calendar to text you when an event happens in 10 minutes, or 30 minutes)
  • Location based alerts!  (I have one that reminds me to text my wife when I arrive at Sam’s Club.)

In the next post, I’m diving deeper into the systems that are working for me right now.  I’ll share some of my favorite tools in this area.

How about you?  What systems do you need to install in your life?  Share them below, or on Facebook.

How to Get More Done With Less Willpower

The bank teller yesterday laughed and called me OCD. (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)  She said that because I pulled out my phone, looked at my budget and asked for $232 back in cash.  And every week I get the same amount, in exactly the same denominations.  All the tellers at my bank know.

Increasing your willpower can help avoid pastoral burnout

I’ve been called (good-naturedly) “nerd” and a bunch of other things.  But here’s the thing: I’m not OCD.  I’m not that organized in a lot of ways.  I’m not really nerd…… OK, I am a little nerdy.

But the truth is: most of what I do is not because I’m a super-organized, pocket-protector guy.  In fact, I am rather distractable, and disorganized in a lot of ways.  My wife & anyone else close to me knows.

How I discovered the power of systems

I moved to OKC, became a pastor and had a kid in the course of a year.  I felt like my whole life was spent barely “keeping the cheese on the cracker.”  It was like wet toilet paper: always falling apart at the wrong moment.  I told my wife it felt like I was juggling china plates.  (I like metaphors.)

I think I first discovered the power of systems when I organized my folder system on my laptop so I can always find what I want quickly.  That stayed in place even through the chaos.  I have re-organized it a couple times, but I still use it 11 years later.  It felt like the ONE PART of my life that was actually WORKING.  I had started to discover the truth spoken by that great guru of personal productivity, Winnie the Pooh:

“Organization is what you do before you do something, so that when you do it, it’s not all mixed up.” – Winnie the Pooh

What Systems Are

Here’s what I mean by a system: A way of organizing information or doing work that is a) written down and b) repeatable.

Here’s what I discovered:  Systems uphold and advance values.  Systems are the things that make visions become reality.

We’ve all been there: We have a great conversation, read a great book, have a deep time of reflection, go to a great conference — and we connect in that moment with our deepest values.  Things that resonate inside us. Then we forget.  The notes never get turned into action.  The conversation is forgotten in the rush of the “urgent.”

For a while I thought it was because the values weren’t real or intense enough.  I thought the problem was motivation… As if I really didn’t hold those values deeply enough.  You know the cruel self-talk:
“If I REALLY valued my family, I’d…”  
“If I was serious about my health, I ought to…”
“Obviously I just don’t care enough about my prayer life…” 

Sometimes, this could be the case.  But not always… maybe not even usually.  I think it’s because we have a limited supply of willpower and brainpower (I’ll be writing on this in the future!).  We can’t wake up every morning and get done the things that tug at our attention, and still create brand-new, never-before-thought-of ways to live out our deepest values!  We just don’t have the margin in today’s fast paced world.

What if there was a way that required less thinking, less willpower, less motivation and got better results?  What if you could think about it once, create a list, and then set a reminder?  What if the mental maintenance on your values dropped by 50%?

I am starting to see this in my life — with systems.

What Systems Can Do

Systems have enabled me to:

  • Get dressed faster in the morning
  • Accomplish several things I value every single day
  • Improve my relationship with my wife
  • Start improving my health
  • Prepare speeches or sermons faster and more thoroughly
  • Raise 7 kids on limited income.
  • Eliminate money fights between my wife and I
  • Cut forgetfulness in my life in half (haven’t eliminated it yet…)
  • Decrease the stress on my limited willpower
  • Focus on what matters in the middle of too many options

In Part 2 of this series on systems, I will share a process for How to Create Systems In Your Work and Life.

What about you?  What are some benefits you might reap in your life by installing systems?  

Introducing SermonSubscribe

I’m pleased to announce that our church is launching a new ministry that will serve churches without pastors, or busy bi-vocational pastors who need preaching support.

SermonSubscribe: Providing Quality Preaching Through Video

Introducing SermonSubscribe.

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In 2012, I (Darrell S.) sat talking with Darrell Underwood, a USAF Master Sergeant who was moving to Clovis, New Mexico to be stationed at Cannon Air Force Base.  He said, “While I’m in Clovis, I feel like God wants me to plant a church.  I’m just not sure what I will do if I am deployed overseas.”

As we discussed options, we talked about the current trend of “multi-site” churches.  We discussed video preaching, and became convinced that this was the path God was leading us toward.  Darrell Underwood was employed full-time with the Air Force as a process improvement specialist. We realized the video preaching I supplied would be a blessing to him as he labored to start what eventually was named Servant’s Heart Chapel in Clovis.

After preaching for a year for Servant’s Heart, I began to feel that there was more that could be done for some small churches that I knew.  Churches that:

  • Had no pastor
  • Had a sick pastor
  • Had a bivocational (read: nearly burned out) pastor
  • Had a pastor who had to be away for a time

And so was born SermonSubscribe.  For a small fee, we do the heavy lifting on preaching, making it as turnkey as possible to have quality biblical preaching in a local church.  Every week, we:

  1. Sermon Supply 2Prayerfully prepare sermons.
  2. Preach them live at my church in OKC.
  3. Record high definition video of the message.
  4. Edit and produce the video.
  5. Burn a DVD or upload the finished video to share.
  6. Print handouts, and ship it all to the subscriber church.

We do all this for $200/mo — a fraction of the cost of a special speaker each Sunday, or of hiring a 2nd staff member.

Our goal: To serve churches by providing quality biblical preaching by video.

Here’s a sample from a recent sermon series, “Redeeming Ruth.”

If you have questions about this service, you are welcome to give me a call or text at the number on this flier, contact me on Facebook, contact me on Twitter, or drop me an email.

RECOMMENDATIONS: 

Pastor Darrell is an “ideas” guy… one of the most prolific I have ever worked with. He has also been gifted by God with the ability to take the truths of Scripture and present them in a memorable and exciting way. I highly recommend SermonSubscribe! This ministry is helping to fill the gap of empty pulpits and spiritually starved congregations.       – Rev. Jonathan Heath, pastor & Youth Challenge director

Pastor Darrell Stetler II offered the solution of video sermons when I wondered what my church was going to do if I was called away to serve our country. It was an enormous success. The sermons were both timely and challenging to our people. They have also helped me meet the challenges I face as a bi-vocational pastor as they have allowed me to spend more time with the people of my community and my family.   – Rev. Darrell Underwood, Pastor (Clovis, NM) & USAF officer

If you are looking for Biblical, practical messages that will stimulate your mind and challenge you in your walk with God, the ministry of Darrell Stetler II will be that kind of ministry.   – Rev. Darrell Stetler, Sr., Pastor, Burlington, KY

If I I know anything about Darrell Stetler II it is this — he will preach the Word of God, the whole Word of God, and nothing but the Word of God. If I was going to be away from my pulpit, I would feel safe allowing Pastor Darrell to preach for me.         – Rev. Doug Eads, Pastor, Ada Chapel Bible Methodist Church

 I would whole-heartedly recommend Darrell Stetler to any church in need of an interim ministry. Expect substantive, biblical, practical messages that will both challenge you and help you grow.   – Dr. Philip Brown, professor, God’s Bible School & College

“I watched the first DVD of the “Made” series, and it’s great!  You’re doing a really good work.” – David Gervais, church member, Trinity Bible Methodist Church, Alabama

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What about you?  Do you know churches that could use this service?  Share your thoughts below!

The Reason You’re Stuck, & How to Get Unstuck

He sat across from me, bouncing his knee nervously, twisting his napkin in his hands.  “I don’t know why I do this… over and over again.  I’m such a fool.  But I guess that’s just me.”

I’ve played that scene so many times as a pastor.  Sometimes, I’m the guy listening, helping the addict bounce back.  Again.  Other times, I’ve played the other side of the table… beating myself up for another failure… trying to figure out why I’m stuck.

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If you know what that feels like, you need to hear Jesus’ almost-insulting question in John 5:6: “Do you want to be well?”  Now, you may not feel insulted by that question… but the guy Jesus asked had been crippled for 38 years.  Sitting by a pool that legend said was a healing pool, trying to get in, and failing… for 38 years.

I think I’d have been peeved.  Miffed.  Ticked.  At least grumpy.  “Well, of COURSE I want to be well. Why do you think I’m sitting here?!”

The disabled guy didn’t get angry; but he didn’t really answer the question, either.  “Sir,” the invalid replied, “I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred. While I am trying to get in, someone else goes down ahead of me.”  (John 5:7, NIV)

Did you see it?  He offers an excuse.  Before we get too “grumpy cat” with Jesus for asking a stupid question, let’s take a second look.  Maybe this isn’t a stupid question — it might be the most pertinent of all for people who have been stuck.

Excuses are anti-responsibility.  And consequently, they are anti-wellness.

But after sitting on stuck in our life for a while, we can stop seeing possibilities.  Instead, we only see the excuses we’ve created to dull the pain of being stuck.

We start seeing excuses as friends that dull the pain, instead of enemies that keep us stuck.

You’ve lived life doubting Jesus and believing your excuses.  It’s time to believe Jesus and doubt your excuses.

This is the subject of a message that I preached recently at our church.  If you’d like more thoughts on this, here it is:


What about you?  What are your favorite excuses — ones that you need to tell to take a hike?

Welcome to my re-designed blog!

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Welcome to the newly remastered darrellstetler2.com!

I’ve reorganized my blog around my personal philosophy:

Making a contribution to young faith leaders by
* giving from my gifted areas
* sharing what I’m loving and learning
* pointing the way to the next level
* providing resources that lift the load

I know.  Ministry is challenging.  And there are plenty of reasons to excuse yourself from the need to grow. Especially if you’re called to a tough place, or have a growing family, or a limited budget.  You can’t hire personal secretaries and coaches. You can’t leave the kids and go away to seminars.  But here’s what I’m learning:

The road to the next level goes through 5 places: belief, choice,  relationship, tools & faithfulness.

I’m no expert. But I’m learning how to keep growing with limited time and money. And I want to share my journey and provide a relationship and some tools.

So here are the things you’ll be seeing around this blog in the next few months:
— a preaching resource that contains YEARS worth of quality biblical messages you can edit
— tips on how to automate your life and build systems that work for you.
— how to build a life that requires less willpower so you can save it for the big choices
— how to lower stress in ministry
— video preaching help for churches and pastors that need it
— ideas for keeping your marriage strong and passionate

How about you?  What’s the biggest growth barrier you face in your home and professional life?